Archive-name: Miscell/erosia07.txt
Archive-author: David P. Thomas
Archive-title: Erosian Theory and Practice
Erosian Theory Developed
My theory came into being from a multitude of experiences
and also from inner feelings which differed tremendously
from standard practice ideas concerning sex. I'll take
this time to break down a few of these myths concerning
sex in general, and in relation to how Erosian Theory
deals with the same situation.
I. Sex is for people in love, primarily married people.
Men get away with sex because it is condoned for them but
women shouldn't or they'll be cheap.
Sex is for every one old enough to deal with and handle
the responsibility of sex. Sex is for married and
unmarried people. Sex is for women as well as men. Sex is
for everyone. It is GOOD, RIGHT, NORMAL, HEALTHY, for
everyone, at anytime or place when consenting adults are
involved. I think the keyword here is consenting adults.
As long as both (or more ) parties are in agreement as to
the nature of their act, there is nothing morally, legally
or ethically wrong with any sexual act.
II. Sex should be between one man and one woman only.
Once again, the keyword here is consenting adults.
Personal tastes, and the backward thinking of certain
cultures have forced us into the molds that we live in
today. Between two consenting women, or two consenting
men, any relationship desired is correct. It is their own
PERSONAL TASTES which defines their sexuality, and not
that of a televangelist or county commissioner. As long as
both parties enjoy and consent to an act, and it doesn't
infringe upon another's rights, who is to criticize. Also
who is to say that the act of sex should be limited to two
people. Many times there are parties of three, four, five
or more consenting adults who desire to share each others
sexuality. Where is the harm in this, if the above
guidelines are applied?
III. The act of sex should consist of vaginal/penile
intercourse, with foreplay consisting of hand to genital
or in some circles mouth to genital contact. Anything
other than this is really unusual or sick.
I have to admit that even the above statement has come a
long way from 50 years ago, when a man never SAW his wife
undressed, but it still leaves out a huge section of the
population. There are many people who would bore quickly
of the above scenario, and therefore have other interests
sexually. These can include fetishism, role reversals,
group experiences, ect, or what some people refer to as
kinky or perverted. But ask someone who genuinely enjoys
one of these diversions if he or she is a pervert, and
they'll look at you like you are one yourself. PERVERTS
are criminals who prey on children and helpless,
nonconsenting adults with a sexuality of force. Kinky is a
cute word, and personally I don't have anything against
it, however, I have begun using the term Alternate
Lifestyles to describe these differences in sexual
enjoyment. See the chapter on Code of Practice for more
details on alternate lifestyles.
IV. Pornography is sick, perverted, filthy and degrades
women. It makes society lose its moral values. It abuses
women and children.
FIRST - Let me state clearly that Erosian Theory does NOT
support child pornography, child sex, pedophilia, or child
abuse in any way. SECONDLY - Erosian Theory in NO WAY
supports abuse of any one, women, children or otherwise.
It is against every code and practice of the Erosian
Theory to participate in any activity with a child or any
person not totally in agreement with the activity
performed.
This said, and kiddie porn aside, let me discuss regular
adult pornography. For the most part, pornography features
men and women as consenting sexual partners. Pornography
feature a variety of topics, catering to multiple
interests. The majority of mainstream, accepted adult
material no matter how graphic or explicit is done in
total agreement with all person involved. Many people
actually try to work their way into the porn business.
However a small segment of society would like you to
believe that these women are being kidnaped, drugged and
forced at gunpoint to perform. As sure as I am that this
has occurred, I am equally as sure that this is the
smallest percentage imaginable, and this type of material
would only appeal to the truly problematic. Once again,
CONSENT is the key.
In Erosian Theory, the majority of pornography is
wholesome, enjoyable and gives a warm aroused feeling to
the reader. The joy of sex is shared, and the ability to
collect or enjoy the beauty of male and female figures
performing or displaying their sexuality is wonderful.
Pornography only becomes dirty when the mind makes it so,
and Erosians who endeavor to read, view and collect adult
erotic material should do so with a good wholesome
feeling. I encourage Erosians to share and trade favorite
literature, and use it to enhance your own sexual life, be
it thru masturbation or mutually shared ideas. However,
see the Codes for unacceptable literature.
V. Masturbation is wrong, or if it's not wrong it
signifies that you can't get anything else!
Masturbation is not wrong. It doesn't signify anything
other than you feel aroused, you want to experience that
arousal further, and either you choose yourself or you
simply DON'T have anyone to share that feeling with. Now,
breaking that down, we come across several different
topics. Firstly, there are times even within a
relationship, when masturbation is preferable to
intercourse. Suppose that your current partner is not into
the same alternate lifestyle activities you are. You still
want to experience these activities, but you have a
commitment. Masturbation will allow you the freedom (to a
degree) to experience your lifestyle. Also, while
intercourse is sharing, many times you may not desire to
share and wish for the ability to arouse and pleasure
yourself at your own pace. Like many things, masturbation
is a powerful, enjoyable, clean, GOOD tool.
VI. Sex is related to love, and without love, sex become
flat,boring and old.
First, sex is not related to love. Sex can be an
outpouring of love, a desire to please a loved one, an
extension of one's love, ect, but in itself, sex is a
pleasurable, physical act. Secondly, love can actually
stifle the experimental qualities of sex. Love can place
limits if the relationship is not open to experimental
actions, especially if one party has an interest in
learning and experimenting and the other doesn't. I'm not
opposing love based relationships, and if they work,
wonderful. However, the key here is communications. The
ability to get across to your partner your desires and
turnons is extremely important.
Erosian Theory can be summed up simply: Sex and sexuality
are deemed extremely important in the life of an Erosian.
The fulfillment of the sexual desire is the successful end
goal, and personal growth and mental, physical and
emotional well being is of the utmost importance along
that path.
Call to Fellow Erosians
If you feel that you share these qualities and desires,
then you may determine to study Erosian Theory. All that
is required is that you remove all sexual guilt from your
life, which is much easier said than done. Understand that
nothing you do or attempt to do sexually is wrong, as long
as it is with consenting adults, and doesn't hurt anyone.
With the guilt removed from your desires, you will begin
the process of learning who you truly are sexually. This
can lead to new frontiers of sexual experience, and an
open door.
Experimental sex can be a terrific way to feel comfortable
learning about your personal sexuality, and if you decide
to register as an Erosian Theorist, then you will have the
ability to contact others who, like yourself, are
searching for the likes and dislikes in their sexuality.
Sound like a pitch? Well, it's not. I don't want anything,
other than to see people accept Erosian Theory as a valid
way to come to terms with their sexuality. All that you
have to do to register is call The Dojo Bulletin Board
System, and request access to the Erosian Registration
Questionnaire. Within 24 hours you will be able to
complete the questionnaire, and you will be assigned an
Erosian Number, along with a Preference Code. After that,
you will be able to utilize the Dojo's special Erosian
Theorist board to contact and discuss in total privacy the
aspects of Erosian Theory that you desire to experience
most. Hopefully, and it is my idea of the ideal situation,
Erosian Theory will blossom within a select group of the
community, and we will be able to meet, discuss,
experience and enjoy each other's company, sexuality and
friendship knowing that we share the same ideals
concerning sex.
IMPORTANT NOTE : THIS IS NOT A SWAP CLUB, OR A SWING CLUB!
Those people have reached a happiness of their own accord,
and have ideal and goals different from Erosian Theory.
They ( and rightly so ) attach themselves to the pleasure
principal and are not always interested in growth. The
Erosian sees sexual growth as an ongoing process, and
seeks to learn, understand and experience those
pleasurable sexual experiences which he/she has determined
to pursue. I expect many hard core Erosians may never meet
another Erosian. It is not required, and Erosian Theory is
a way of life, not a sport or event based club. If you
have a desire to find others like yourself, then contact
the Dojo.
A SPECIAL NOTE TO WOMEN : As we are all aware, you do not
tend to be as promiscuous as men, based on antiquated
theories of looseness and respectability. However, many
studies have shown women to be more sexually repressed
than men. Erosian Theory allows you to face this
repression and experience at least mentally the freedom of
sexual expression.Before you turn away from Erosian Theory
based on the sexuality involved, answer several questions:
1> Have you ever felt unsatisfied in a sexual
relationship?
2> Have you ever had thoughts which titillated you,
but you turned them off because they were nasty?
3> Do you masturbate? Can you orgasm with a partner,
or by yourself or both ?
If you answered yes to any of the above, you may want to
look into Erosian Theory before discarding it.
There are many levels and branches of Erosian Theory, and
if one level, and one good sexual experience comes of your
study of Erosian Theory, then you have gained something,
for nothing, that you wouldn't have had otherwise.
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