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Archive-name: Miscell/erosia07.txt

Archive-author: David P. Thomas

Archive-title: Erosian Theory and Practice


                         Erosian Theory Developed

          My theory came into being from a multitude of experiences

          and also from inner feelings which differed tremendously

          from standard practice ideas concerning sex. I'll take

          this time to break down a few of these myths concerning

          sex in general, and in relation to how Erosian Theory

          deals with the same situation.

          I. Sex is for people in love, primarily married people.

          Men get away with sex because it is condoned for them but

          women shouldn't or they'll be cheap.

          Sex is for every one old enough to deal with and handle

          the responsibility of sex. Sex is for married and

          unmarried people. Sex is for women as well as men. Sex is

          for everyone. It is GOOD, RIGHT, NORMAL, HEALTHY, for

          everyone, at anytime or place when consenting adults are

          involved. I think the keyword here is consenting adults.

          As long as both (or more ) parties are in agreement as to

          the nature of their act, there is nothing morally, legally

          or ethically wrong with any sexual act.

          II. Sex should be between one man and one woman only.

          Once again, the keyword here is consenting adults.

          Personal tastes, and the backward thinking of certain

          cultures have forced us into the molds that we live in

          today. Between two consenting women, or two consenting

          men, any relationship desired is correct. It is their own

          PERSONAL TASTES which defines their sexuality, and not

          that of a televangelist or county commissioner. As long as

          both parties enjoy and consent to an act, and it doesn't

          infringe upon another's rights, who is to criticize. Also

          who is to say that the act of sex should be limited to two

          people. Many times there are parties of three, four, five

          or more consenting adults who desire to share each others

          sexuality. Where is the harm in this, if the above

          guidelines are applied?

          III. The act of sex should consist of vaginal/penile

          intercourse, with foreplay consisting of hand to genital

          or in some circles mouth to genital contact. Anything

          other than this is really unusual or sick.

          I have to admit that even the above statement has come a

          long way from 50 years ago, when a man never SAW his wife

          undressed, but it still leaves out a huge section of the

          population. There are many people who would bore quickly

          of the above scenario, and therefore have other interests

          sexually. These can include fetishism, role reversals,

          group experiences, ect, or what some people refer to as

          kinky or perverted. But ask someone who genuinely enjoys

          one of these diversions if he or she is a pervert, and

          they'll look at you like you are one yourself. PERVERTS

          are criminals who prey on children and helpless,

          nonconsenting adults with a sexuality of force. Kinky is a

          cute word, and personally I don't have anything against

          it, however, I have begun using the term Alternate

          Lifestyles to describe these differences in sexual

          enjoyment. See the chapter on Code of Practice for more

          details on alternate lifestyles.

          IV. Pornography is sick, perverted, filthy and degrades

          women. It makes society lose its moral values. It abuses

          women and children.

          FIRST - Let me state clearly that Erosian Theory does NOT

          support child pornography, child sex, pedophilia, or child

          abuse in any way. SECONDLY - Erosian Theory in NO WAY

          supports abuse of any one, women, children or otherwise.

          It is against every code and practice of the Erosian

          Theory to participate in any activity with a child or any

          person not totally in agreement with the activity


          This said, and kiddie porn aside, let me discuss regular

          adult pornography. For the most part, pornography features

          men and women as consenting sexual partners. Pornography

          feature a variety of topics, catering to multiple

          interests. The majority of mainstream, accepted adult

          material no matter how graphic or explicit is done in

          total agreement with all person involved. Many people

          actually try to work their way into the porn business.

          However a small segment of society would like you to

          believe that these women are being kidnaped, drugged and

          forced at gunpoint to perform. As sure as I am that this

          has occurred, I am equally as sure that this is the

          smallest percentage imaginable, and this type of material

          would only appeal to the truly problematic. Once again,

          CONSENT is the key.

          In Erosian Theory, the majority of pornography is

          wholesome, enjoyable and gives a warm aroused feeling to

          the reader. The joy of sex is shared, and the ability to

          collect or enjoy the beauty of male and female figures

          performing or displaying their sexuality is wonderful.

          Pornography only becomes dirty when the mind makes it so,

          and Erosians who endeavor to read, view and collect adult

          erotic material should do so with a good wholesome

          feeling. I encourage Erosians to share and trade favorite

          literature, and use it to enhance your own sexual life, be

          it thru masturbation or mutually shared ideas. However,

          see the Codes for unacceptable literature.

          V. Masturbation is wrong, or if it's not wrong it

          signifies that you can't get anything else!

          Masturbation is not wrong. It doesn't signify anything

          other than you feel aroused, you want to experience that

          arousal further, and either you choose yourself or you

          simply DON'T have anyone to share that feeling with. Now,

          breaking that down, we come across several different

          topics. Firstly, there are times even within a

          relationship, when masturbation is preferable to

          intercourse. Suppose that your current partner is not into

          the same alternate lifestyle activities you are. You still

          want to experience these activities, but you have a

          commitment. Masturbation will allow you the freedom (to a

          degree) to experience your lifestyle. Also, while

          intercourse is sharing, many times you may not desire to

          share and wish for the ability to arouse and pleasure

          yourself at your own pace. Like many things, masturbation

          is a powerful, enjoyable, clean, GOOD tool.

          VI. Sex is related to love, and without love, sex become

          flat,boring and old.

          First, sex is not related to love. Sex can be an

          outpouring of love, a desire to please a loved one, an

          extension of one's love, ect, but in itself, sex is a

          pleasurable, physical act. Secondly, love can actually

          stifle the experimental qualities of sex. Love can place

          limits if the relationship is not open to experimental

          actions, especially if one party has an interest in

          learning and experimenting and the other doesn't. I'm not

          opposing love based relationships, and if they work,

          wonderful. However, the key here is communications. The

          ability to get across to your partner your desires and

          turnons is extremely important.

          Erosian Theory can be summed up simply: Sex and sexuality

          are deemed extremely important in the life of an Erosian.

          The fulfillment of the sexual desire is the successful end

          goal, and personal growth and mental, physical and

          emotional well being is of the utmost importance along

          that path.

                           Call to Fellow Erosians

          If you feel that you share these qualities and desires,

          then you may determine to study Erosian Theory. All that

          is required is that you remove all sexual guilt from your

          life, which is much easier said than done. Understand that

          nothing you do or attempt to do sexually is wrong, as long

          as it is with consenting adults, and doesn't hurt anyone.

          With the guilt removed from your desires, you will begin

          the process of learning who you truly are sexually. This

          can lead to new frontiers of sexual experience, and an

          open door.

          Experimental sex can be a terrific way to feel comfortable

          learning about your personal sexuality, and if you decide

          to register as an Erosian Theorist, then you will have the

          ability to contact others who, like yourself, are

          searching for the likes and dislikes in their sexuality.

          Sound like a pitch? Well, it's not. I don't want anything,

          other than to see people accept Erosian Theory as a valid

          way to come to terms with their sexuality. All that you

          have to do to register is call The Dojo Bulletin Board

          System, and request access to the Erosian Registration

          Questionnaire. Within 24 hours you will be able to

          complete the questionnaire, and you will be assigned an

          Erosian Number, along with a Preference Code. After that,

          you will be able to utilize the Dojo's special Erosian

          Theorist board to contact and discuss in total privacy the

          aspects of Erosian Theory that you desire to experience

          most. Hopefully, and it is my idea of the ideal situation,

          Erosian Theory will blossom within a select group of the

          community, and we will be able to meet, discuss,

          experience and enjoy each other's company, sexuality and

          friendship knowing that we share the same ideals

          concerning sex.


          Those people have reached a happiness of their own accord,

          and have ideal and goals different from Erosian Theory.

          They ( and rightly so ) attach themselves to the pleasure

          principal and are not always interested in growth. The

          Erosian sees sexual growth as an ongoing process, and

          seeks to learn, understand and experience those

          pleasurable sexual experiences which he/she has determined

          to pursue. I expect many hard core Erosians may never meet

          another Erosian. It is not required, and Erosian Theory is

          a way of life, not a sport or event based club. If you

          have a desire to find others like yourself, then contact

          the Dojo.

          A SPECIAL NOTE TO WOMEN :  As we are all aware, you do not

          tend to be as promiscuous as men, based on antiquated

          theories of looseness and respectability. However, many

          studies have shown women to be more sexually repressed

          than men. Erosian Theory allows you to face this

          repression and experience at least mentally the freedom of

          sexual expression.Before you turn away from Erosian Theory

          based on the sexuality involved, answer several questions:

              1> Have you ever felt unsatisfied in a sexual


              2> Have you ever had thoughts which titillated you,

                 but you turned them off because they were nasty?

              3> Do you masturbate? Can you orgasm with a partner,

                 or by yourself or both ?

          If you answered yes to any of the above, you may want to

          look into Erosian Theory before discarding it.

          There are many levels and branches of Erosian Theory, and

          if one level, and one good sexual experience comes of your

          study of Erosian Theory, then you have gained something,

          for nothing, that you wouldn't have had otherwise.



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